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Blackvegetable » Today, 5:55 pm » wrote: ↑

Today, 5:55 pm

You never provide evidence.

You lie about everything.

Color me skeptical.

Narcissists often accuse others of what they are guilty of because they use projection as a psychological defense mechanism to protect their fragile ego, avoid accountability, and maintain control. Here are the key reasons behind this behavior:In Summary:

• Projection: They project their own flaws onto others to avoid facing their own shortcomings.
• Avoiding accountability: Accusing others allows them to deflect responsibility and shift blame.
• Preserving their self-image: They maintain their illusion of superiority by casting others as the problem.
• Gaslighting and manipulation: Accusing others confuses and destabilizes their targets, helping them control the situation.
• Shifting focus: They divert attention away from their own behavior by accusing others first.
• Lack of self-reflection: They are unable or unwilling to confront their own flaws, so they externalize them onto others.
• Reinforcing control: Accusing others keeps them in control of the relationship by putting others on the defensive.
• Fear of vulnerability: Projection protects them from feeling emotionally exposed or weak.
• Cognitive dissonance: They accuse others to resolve the internal conflict between their behavior and their self-image.
• Preemptive strike: Accusing others first prevents them from being held accountable for their own actions.

Sources:

• “The Narcissist You Know” by Joseph Burgo explains how projection is a key defense mechanism for narcissists, allowing them to avoid accountability.
• Dr. Ramani Durvasula frequently discusses how narcissists accuse others of what they themselves are guilty of as a way to manipulate, deflect, and avoid responsibility in her books and videos.
• “Why Is It Always About You?” by Sandy Hotchkiss explores the use of projection as a tactic narcissists use to protect their self-image and avoid emotional vulnerability.