Keep projecting the illusion you need to believe fits me so you can feel larger than time displaced being you since conceived. A brain navigates living as a sole position of ancestry and there is no "we" in "I am me" all the time. We is this species of all ancestral lineages adapting in series parallel proportion adapting to the same spaces at the same time simple rule adapt or become extinct applies to all life native to this atmosphere.
Balance comes from understanding differences between needs to live and live to be wanted by others.
Choice to accept or deny all one has been is where original sin travels down family traditional values and the mayhem, madness, misery induced by rule of law directing every ancestor to assume a role in reality or else face ridicule, shunning by family, exile by community, exercised by religion, executed by political state of minds, and worst of all, economics is the means to work it subliminally all 5 generation gaps in every ancestral lineage until extinction arrives.
Extinction event horizon is end of adding 31st arrivals/each great great grandchild changing population left alive each rotation forward.