There is an old Chinese saying, attributed to Confuscius.
This is the best translation I could find, attributed to Alfred E. Neuman:
"When beaten by rapist, confront self - not neighbor."
I'm not a tech guy and I've always been confused by parables. But I am a dead shot when it comes to aphorisms, and I believe that I can explicate that Confuscian insrutabilia for you, if required.
When you complain, ur friends roll their eyes and ur enemies rejoice
"Because I SAY I am" is a todler's tantrum, not "science"
You cannot betray me - only yourself, to me.
Who cuts off your dick is not a friend
An opinion you won't defend is not your own
Humanity's Law of the Jungle: Survival NOT of the fittest, but of the tribe
When peeing in the pool, stand on the edge
If gender is not sex, why should a gender claim change what sex you shower with?