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I (54F) have been financially supporting my two nephews (20M and 22M) for years. Their father is my half-brother (40M), has struggled to provide for them, so I’ve stepped in to help. They live in Texas, and while their dad is technically in their lives, I’ve been covering their education, living expenses, and other needs to give them opportunities he couldn’t. I’ve always tried to step up for family when I could, especially since their dad hasn’t been able to give them the same opportunities.

A few days after the election, I noticed my youngest son (19M) seemed a little off. He’s usually a very easygoing guy, but something was clearly bothering him. When I asked, he reluctantly told me that he and his siblings (two daughters and another son, all in their 20s) had been arguing with my nephews after finding out they voted for Trump. They hadn’t wanted to tell me because they knew I’d be upset, but he felt like I should know.

At first, I was just stunned. My nephews know where I stand on politics and morality. I’ve spent my life advocating for equity, fairness, and education, values I’ve also instilled in my children. For them to vote for someone who actively undermines those principles, felt deeply disappointing.

But I saw the group chat. After the initial argument, apparently nephews sent several messages defending their alliance to MAGA. They talked about “liking his policies” and downplayed my kids’ concerns. Saying things like “everyone’s entitled to their opinion” and “it’s not that deep.” One of them even said, “I don’t see why this is such a big deal; it’s just politics.”

The more I read, I felt really hurt, and now I'm getting to be more feeling angry. It wasn’t outright malicious, but it was dismissive in a way that felt so ignorant and inconsiderate. My children tried to explain why this mattered so deeply to the and to me.

But my nephews didn’t seem to grasp the weight of it. They genuinely didn’t understand how their vote could feel like a rejection of everything I’ve worked for and the values I’ve tried to instill in them. They weren't *willing* to understand.

When I confronted them directly they brushed it off insisting it wasn’t personal. And they accusing me of overreacting. When I told them I couldn’t continue supporting them if they chose to align themselves with values that go against everything I stand for, they accused me of being unfair and of “using money to control them.”

To me, this isn’t about control—it’s about principles. I’ve given them so much, and it hurts to feel like they can dismiss all of that along with the struggles my family and I have faced. My kids agree with me, but some family members think I’m being too harsh. They’ve said I’m letting politics divide the family and punishing my nephews for their beliefs.

So, WIBTA if I cut them off?

ETA: I appreciate all the input. thre’s a lot to think about here. Honestly, I need to just sit and think about what to do next. Sorry for any typos, I’m a bit tipsy rn. Thanks for all the perspectivese.

I guess the question is what kind of support are you offering grown *** men? Shouldn't they be well past anything besides maybe cosigning a loan to get an apartment, car, or school?

If they complain, just tell them they convinced you socialism is wrong and your help was socialism.

LowIQTrash » 22 Nov 2024, 7:35 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 7:35 pm

S O S H A L I Z M

LowIQTrash » 22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm

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ROFL

Please seat yourself.



I like the very things you hate.

LowIQTrash » 22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUB ... hey_voted/

ROFL

LowIQTrash » 22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 7:29 pm

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUB ... hey_voted/

ROFL

Cannonpointer » 22 Nov 2024, 9:43 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 9:43 pm

       

RebelGator » 22 Nov 2024, 7:47 pm » wrote: ↑

22 Nov 2024, 7:47 pm

Another asshole that can't even spell Trump.